Part of Amy’s system was creating a scoring system for everything she wanted in a partner, and refusing to go on dates or continue relationships with people who didn’t score high enough on her system. Mira broke down “chemistry” into five requirements: ease and closeness, fun, safety, mutual respect, and affection and passion (see this summary of an earlier version of the five elements by Lisa Wolcott).
Recording feedback on a spreadsheet I then put out a call on Facebook asking my friends to help select the best ones.Merkur revealed his secret scoring process to date ‘Arielle’, after ranking her in first place on his chart.During the date he told her about his unique system for keeping track of his dozen dates and then forwarded her the spreadsheet, to prove that she was at the top of the list.David Merkur, a 28-year-old investment banker from New York, used the Microsoft Excel tool to record details of each of the women's characteristics as well as progress reports on how his dates with them went.wrote to Arielle: 'Well, this could be a mistake, but what the hell... I hope this email doesn't backfire, because I really had a great time and hope to hang again soon :)'Perhaps most concerning was that Merkur passed on the information without removing the girls' telephone numbers, email addresses, full names or details about their dates, such as how he scored their appearances. Just when I thought I had seen it all...'The spreadsheet was split into various categories including 'Monitor closely' and 'Monitor casually' columns.Mail Online has blurred out this personal information to protect the girls' identities.'On the date, he tells me that he has a spreadsheet for tracking all of the people from Match that are 'in process.' Naturally, I tease him and ask him to send me the spreadsheet. It detailed sent text messages and email exchanges as well as the venues in which Dave and his date met.In my blog post about how to have more fun online dating, I mentioned the spreadsheet I made to help with dating. Nothing like an evening of writing formulas to get you in the mood for love!